Dear Daughter,

If you’re anything like me, sometimes you may be exceptionally hard on yourself. The phrase “We are our own worst critic” rings so true! How many times have you overanalyzed your actions wishing that you could have a “do over.” How often do you replay in your mind what you would do differently if you had the opportunity? How many times have you completed a task but scrutinized the finished product because you think it could be better? Have you ever criticized your gifts and talents thinking to yourself that it’s just not sufficient, or even comparing them to the gifts and talents of someone else, which in turn leaves you with feelings of inadequacy? (You can’t see me right now, but I am shamefully raising my hand.) Been there. Done that.

You may not want to admit it, but if we’re being completely honest, we often judge ourselves (as well as others) based on our own insecurities. Oftentimes, our critiques come from the frustration of seeing the potential that lies within. We know it’s there, but the painstaking journey to exert our maximal capacity can be quite overwhelming at times. We envision ourselves as the person we yearn to be. We anticipate the accomplishments we can achieve. But sometimes, we get discouraged, comparing where we are to where we want to be, and we realize how far off we really are from our goals. I can’t tell you how many times I have started something but never finished because of my own critical assessments. Don’t get me wrong… We should strive to do everything in excellence, but please don’t let your ambition for perfection cloud the progression it takes to get there.

You won’t always get it right, and that’s ok. Learn from it and aim to do better. Don’t be so hard on yourself. Beloved, always remember the lessons you learn along the journey are far more valuable than the destination.

Respect the Process,

    Ana J.