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Words Do Hurt

Dear Daughter,

I’m sure as a child, at some point, you’ve heard the infamous phrase “sticks and stones may break my bones but words will never hurt me.” Well, as much as you may have rehearsed this line over and over again in your mind, hoping it would stick like glue, the phrase just simply isn’t true. Words really do hurt! Oftentimes, it’s difficult to see the power that lies within our words. Therefore, without thought, we blurt out what we consider to be harmless nuances; the utterance of which, in all actuality, may leave the hearer mentally scarred and emotionally broken. In our eyes, it may be unintentional; however, it is harmful.

I have to be honest with you… I’m not always cautious with my words, especially when I’m angry or hurt. I can be a firecracker spewing daggers at you when I feel like you have wronged me in some way and sometimes even for no reason at all. Don’t get me wrong, there have been instances when I have said something to someone and the meaning got misconstrued in my tone or choice of words, which was a sincere mistake and not my intention at all. On the contrary, there have been plenty of times in the past (and when I say past, I mean like yesterday. Don’t judge me. I’m still a work in progress!) when I have fired harsh, unimaginable daggers with words that cut so deep it took days, weeks, months, even years to recover: words that even today I can’t believe I would ever say. Lesson learned: once I say something, as much as I wish I could, I can’t take it back.

My prayer is that you would learn this lesson sooner rather than later. Think about how others’ words have affected you. It’s so important to have control over your tongue. Be mindful of the motive behind what you’re saying and why you’re saying it. Use your voice to uplift and not tear down, to encourage and not discourage. SPEAK LIFE! My love, always remember, “Life and death are in the power of your tongue.”

Respect the process,

Ana J.